Why I Wrote My Breastfeeding Book

Have you ever experienced something so profound it changed the very way you see the world?

Cover of the breastfeeding book 'Milk Tales: A Journey of Motherhood and Breastfeeding' held by two hands, with soft light and shadows in the background – photography book by Valentina Rebeschini.

For me, this happened back in 2006, far away from my comfort zone, in a small rural village in Malawi. It wasn’t an exotic holiday or a dreamy escape; instead, it was a trip that shifted something deep within me, planting the seed for the work I do today as a motherhood photographer.

In Malawi, life was a vibrant tapestry woven with resilience, joy, and an extraordinary sense of community despite extreme poverty. Every day, I found myself amazed by mothers who carried their babies close, breastfeeding openly and naturally, without a hint of shame or discomfort. It was simple, yet powerful. Essential. Life-giving.

Back home, breastfeeding was invisible, hidden behind closed doors and shrouded in secrecy and shame. I grew up not seeing women openly feeding their babies, believing breasts were something to hide rather than celebrate. It wasn’t until I saw the mothers of Malawi that I truly understood how beautiful and vital breastfeeding is, not only as an act of nourishment but as a powerful connection between mother and child, woman and community. I often wish I had taken photos of those moments, but at the time, it wasn’t something I was used to. I held back, not wanting to intrude or offend.

Scene from rural Malawi that inspired the breastfeeding book – mother carrying baby on her back and basket on her head, symbolising strength and community.

Related article: How It All Began: My Journey into Motherhood Photography

My Own Struggles with Breastfeeding

Fast-forward to becoming a mum myself, and suddenly, breastfeeding was no longer a distant, idealised scene. It was hard, really hard. Hidden behind closed doors, I struggled in silence, battling feelings of isolation, guilt, and inadequacy. I constantly questioned myself: “Am I doing this right? Why isn’t this easier? Why does it hurt so much?” I longed for the open-hearted, supportive community I’d witnessed in Malawi, where women sat together, nursing and sharing stories or chats. Instead, I was alone, hiding my struggles out of embarrassment. Years later, I discovered I wasn’t alone at all. My feelings and challenges echoed in the experiences of so many other mothers.

This revelation brought clarity to my long-standing question: “What can I do to make a difference?” I realised that the answer had been planted years before in Malawi. The seed was growing. I needed to create a safe space for women to be seen, heard, and supported in their breastfeeding journeys.

Breastfeeding Stories: The Heart of the Book

And so, this breastfeeding book was born – Milk Tales: A Journey of Motherhood and Breastfeeding. A labour of love inspired by the mothers of Malawi and fuelled by my own experiences and the ones of many others. It’s my small contribution toward a massive, much-needed change. Through honest, raw, and powerful images, I’ve captured breastfeeding stories from a variety of women, each with their own unique journey of strength, vulnerability, and love.

My hope is that this breastfeeding book becomes more than just a collection of photographs. I want it to be a sanctuary for mothers navigating their own paths, a place where their stories matter and where they see themselves reflected and celebrated. It’s a call to break the silence, to share openly, and to reclaim breastfeeding as a source of pride and connection, not shame.

Why I Wrote This Book

Why did I write this breastfeeding book? Because stories hold power. Stories break barriers, build bridges, and inspire courage. I wrote it to honour every mother who has ever felt alone, every mother who has quietly wondered if she was enough. You are.

Cover of the breastfeeding book 'Milk Tales: A Journey of Motherhood and Breastfeeding' displayed on a white shelf beside a vase of dried flowers.

Related post: The Power of Breastfeeding Stories: How Sharing Your Journey Helps Others

Let’s share our stories boldly, loudly, lovingly. Together, we can change the conversation around breastfeeding, one powerful, beautiful story at a time.

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Not all breastfeeding stories start with ease.

And some carry more than we can see.

This wasn’t just a photoshoot, it was a moment to honour a deeper journey.

One that mixed pain and joy. Loss and healing.

Feeding her baby… and feeding her soul.

The plasters were symbolic. So was the baby’s breath.

But the emotion? That was all her.

And honestly, it stayed with me.

If this speaks to you, know you’re not alone.

We carry so much. And sometimes, we need someone to see it.
 
My book will hold this story and many others like it. 
If it speaks to your heart, save it. Or share it with someone who needs to feel seen. 🤍

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Natalie and Sara aren’t just sisters-in-law, they’ve walked side by side through the early days of motherhood, holding space for each other’s struggles and joys.

This session was a reminder that we don’t have to do it alone. In motherhood, as in business. That when stories are shared, healing begins.

That sometimes, the most powerful thing we can offer… is simply to be there.

And that’s the heart of my book: sharing stories, truths and experiences that make us feel less alone.

If you’ve ever felt supported by another mum, tag them below. Let them know they mattered.

And if you’re curious to read more stories like this one… keep your eyes peeled for news about the book release coming very soon!

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This photo? It’s actually two images merged into one.

The eye you see? Hers.

The reflection? 
A moment of feeding, held in her memory and now in this frame.

It’s not just editing. It’s storytelling.

Inspired by her journey. Created from emotion.

Because photography isn’t just about what you see, it’s about what you feel.

And this? This one feels like truth.
Working from a new spot because staring at the same screen in the same room wasn’t doing me any favours. 

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Drop your favourite focus spot in the comments: your garden? a café? kitchen table? I’m all ears.
Not my first time at the House of Lords… I know, I know. You’re probably thinking “Her again?!” 😅

But I promise, it never gets old.

Today was all about creativity (of course—hello, we’re talking about Adobe!), and how refreshing it is to chat with other small businesses in the creative world.

Huge thanks to the fab @adobeexpress team and @britainsmallbiz for putting together such a great course and for filling the room with so many lovely, inspiring people.

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