How It All Began: My Journey into Motherhood Photography

Originally published on 19th August 2020 – World Photography Day

When I first wrote this post, I hadn’t yet dreamed up Milk Tales, my breastfeeding photography book. But as I look back, I can see that the seeds were already there. So here’s a slightly updated version of my story, a little peek into how it all began.

Related article: Why I Wrote My Breastfeeding Book

My Journey into Motherhood Photography

I’ve always loved photographs. I used to sit with my dad, going through slide films and boxes of prints, reliving moments, laughing at memories, getting lost in stories. He had a proper camera, one of those that clicked with purpose and I thought it was magical.

Some of my happiest moments when I visit my family in Italy are spent digging through those old boxes. There’s something powerful about holding a photo in your hand and feeling time slow down.

I fast forward a bit otherwise I get boring . . .

If I had to pinpoint the moment I truly fell in love with photography, it was in 2006, during a trip to Malawi. I was 24 and spent a few weeks living in a small missionary community in one of the poorest countries in the world.

It was raw, eye-opening, and unforgettable.

Every morning, I’d wake up early, excited to meet people, help where I could, and capture the stories unfolding around me. I kept a diary, and I took photos, lots of them. Not for Instagram (which didn’t exist back then), but to remember. To feel. I only had a small compact camera back then so the quality of the photos is not great unfortunately, but when I see hehm the images are vivid in my mind.

Photography had the ability to capture the place and the experience I was living and that moment in my life. ⁠

And the children, oh, the joy they showed when I turned the camera around to show them their faces! Laughter, surprise, curiosity. They saw themselves, sometimes for the first time, and their reaction lit up the air around us. It was electric.

Then, I started noticing the mothers.

They were everywhere, doing everything. Strong, graceful, always carrying their babies with them—on their backs, on their fronts, wherever they needed to be. They walked with purpose, worked with their little ones close to their hearts. They breastfed openly, without shame or judgment. It was natural. It was life.

I didn’t know it at the time, but something shifted in me on that trip.

Motherhood photography found me before I even became a mother myself.

black and white portrait of Valentina, newborn and maternity photographer in London


Years later, when I had my daughter and began my own messy, beautiful, exhausting journey, those memories came back with a different kind of clarity. I had seen the quiet strength of mothers before, I just didn’t know how much it would mean to me until I joined them.

That trip was the start of everything. The storytelling. The emotion. The desire to document not just the smiles but the struggle too.

It took years, a lot of learning, and many brave clients trusting me with their stories, but today, I’m proud to say that this isn’t just a job. It’s a calling.

Photography still makes me happy.

These early photos, taken with a tiny digital camera, may not be technically perfect, but they’re part of my beginning. And they remind me why I do what I do: to capture connection, to honour truth, and to celebrate motherhood in all its forms.


And this job makes me happy! Through my lens, I get to celebrate strength, softness, and the raw, beautiful reality of motherhood, whether through maternity photography, newborn sessions, or honest storytelling projects like Milk Tales.

series of motherhood images. Portraits of African mothers
series of motherhood images: African mothers with child

If you’d like to see how this journey evolved into Milk Tales, my book about breastfeeding and the real stories behind it, you can find it on Amazon.

And if you’re curious about my current work, come say hello over on my Instagram page or visit my website – I’d love to connect with you.

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I often start with an idea.
A light, a set, a feeling I imagine could work.

But the real session begins when you walk in.
When we connect, when I listen, when I understand what you need, not just what I planned.

That is where everything shifts.

A portrait session isn’t about fitting you into my vision.
It’s about creating something together, something that feels true to you.

Would you prefer to be guided, or to co-create your session?
This photo is from last year.

We look different now. Older, wiser, with shorter hair. We’re in different countries. Life has thrown its complications at us, the kind that don’t get shared on social media. And a photo like this is not possible right now.

So I’m holding on to this one until better days come.

I remember how hard it was to take it. So many bad ones, so much frustration. Me going back and forth from the camera. And then this. The last one. The real one. Laughter out of frustration. Boom.

This Mother’s Day, I’m not thinking about breakfast in bed or bouquets. That’s for the Instagram show.

I’m thinking about the women who wish they still had their mum. The ones who wish they were one. The ones holding everything together while the world posts its perfect mum life, and we all know it’s not real. The ones who are tired, exhausted, overwhelmed, desperate for a break, but with a heart full of love, hanging onto every little moment of joy.

You don’t have to have the perfect day to be a good mother.

Today is about acknowledging us, exactly as we are.

Happy Mother’s Day 🤍
What’s the main message of Milk Tales?

This was my answer on my very first podcast back in July, before the book even launched. And now, after being featured in Grazia, this message feels more important than ever.

Every story shared helps another mother feel less alone. 

Every conversation breaks the silence a little more.

If you’re struggling with breastfeeding, please know: you deserve to be seen, heard, and supported. Your story matters.

Milk Tales available on Amazon

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VALE@PHOTOGRAPHYBYVALENTINA.COM

07577 978246

LONDON NEWBORN & MATERNITY PHOTOGRAPHER

Based in Richmond, I work with families across London to capture life’s most meaningful milestones through portrait photography.